The Wall Street Journal reported recently that loneliness undermines health and is linked to early mortality- and baby boomers are especially feeling the effect. Baby boomers are aging alone more than any generation in U.S. history, and the resulting loneliness is a looming public health threat. About one in 11 Americans age 50 and older lacks a spouse, partner or living child, census figures and other research show. That amounts to about eight million people in the U.S. without close kin, the main source of companionship in old age, and their share of the population is projected to grow.
When we hear matchmakers claiming to represent a set number of singles year after year we have to ask ourselves why? Why would the same matchmaking firm claim to have over 2000 of the finest singles on Long Island and New York City year after year? Is that company actually matching anyone? Is that company just taking money from anyone they can get it from? How can you represent the same number of singles year after year? As if that is the only issue that "commercialized matchmakers" face. Anyone who knows anything about love and romance knows that if you only have 2000 members in your "database of singles" your odds of introducing them to each other, and them finding love is almost impossible.
The love was gone and she lay empty in my arms like a ghost with no heartbeat. I was falling endlessly into the dark eternity of despair, not knowing just how far the crack in my heart would grow, or if the gap would be beyond repair. Years of emptiness and lost hope were my daily companions. I was alone and unwilling to settle for anyone less than my soul mate and then I met her. But how far had the cracks in her heart grown? Was her smile just a front to hide her own pain? She was no stranger to betrayal and her heart was also challenged. This she shared candidly, when I first met her. And of course, I saw it in her eyes. Maybe the cracks in her heart is what attracted me to her, as I am so accustomed to rescuing broken hearts, as I recklessly expose my own.
John Joseph Dowling Jr. LongIslandMatchmaking.com's Senior Matchmaker and CMO speaks about why he started LongIslandMatchmaking.com and provides a general update on matchmaking on Long Island in general.
In many cultures, the role of the matchmaker was and is quite professionalized. The Ashkenazi Jewish Shadchan, or the Hindu astrologer, were often thought to be essential advisors and also helped in finding right spouses as they had links and a relation of good faith with the families. In cultures where arranged marriages were the rule, the astrologer often claimed that the stars sanctified matches that both parents approved of, making it quite difficult for the hesitant children to object (and also making it easy for the astrologer to collect his fee). Tarot divination has also been employed by some matchmakers.
What makes LongIslandMatchmaking.com different? First off Perhaps you have had enough of the misleading – and very exposed – never ending searching and dishonest profiles associated with most of the online dating services, or you're just tired of how much time it takes. Maybe you're too busy to meet new people outside your general network of friends, or you just don't want to date them. You might be picky and haven't been meeting other quality, relationship-minded men or woman, you've always dreamed of meeting.