The Lonely Reality of Today’s Long Island Singles

New research suggests that many Long Island Singles are becoming more anxious, depressed and lonely

Long Island Singles are victims to today’s huge obsession with technology, and Long Island Singles are bearing much of the brunt. In conversation after conversation, Long Island Singles describe themselves as particularly vulnerable to the loneliness of our increasingly digital culture, with many of them struggling to manage the constant connectedness of social media, their rising levels of stress, and the intense emotions associated with living alone.

Long Island Singles in 2019 tend to be putting themselves out there, they are focused on themselves, their friends, and families. Even so, they are also experiencing high levels of depression and loneliness. A 2019 survey found that 36% of Long Island Singles report being extremely anxious every day. They are particularly worried about the holiday season and their ability to afford to live on Long Island even as they reach retirement.

Over the past 24 months, has conducted interviews and focus groups with around one hundred and fifty Long Island Singles. We have also interviewed many more women and men who are single parents. That sample isn’t comprehensive, of course, but the results are similar and unbelievably consistent—with much to be concerned about.

Many Long Island Singles report that their family members are their best friends. In other cases Long Island Singles reporting to Long Island Matchmaking have shared that they simply have found a way of living alone with no committed romantic relationships at all in their lives.

These Long Island Singles are also more solitary. Research shows that, since 2007 with the dawn of the smartphone era, Long Island Singles have dramatically decreased the amount of time they spend shopping, seeing friends, going to malls, and even going to movies. We found that many Long Island Singles spend their Saturday nights home alone, watching movies and surfing social media.

Because of the omnipresent smartphone, Long Island Singles can call or text their friends and family to ask what’s for dinner or request a ride home. Many Long Island Singles are out in the world alone, solving the problem of lonliness by themselves.


When my friends are depressed, ill, or feeling lonely, I’m the person they call,” said John Dowling, the senior matchmaker and creative officer for Long Island Matchmaking. “It’s terrifying. I’ve helped with suicide-prevention for so many lonely singles. When I started Long Island Matchmaking I was not really ready to handle this level of emotional responsibility. But now I feel it is part of my coaching and twenty-four by seven responsibilities”.

How did we get here? According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, we are seeing the highest levels of suicide ever recorded. From 1994 onward, rates of suicide steadily declined until 2007, when they started to skyrocket.

The American Association of Pediatrics now warns that too much social-media use can lead to depression and anxiety. Social media works against basic developmental goals—physical, cognitive, relational, sexual and maturational. Most Long Island Singles sleep with their phones and react to every notification. As they create more interesting, supposedly happier virtual personas for themselves, their real selves diminish. Singles collect “likes” instead of making friends. They can be devastated by a cruel text or a tepid reaction to a selfie. Long before they go on their first Long Island Matchmaking date, they are exposed to extreme levels of loneliness and the helplessness that comes from constant “swiping” that almost never provides tangible relationship results.

“Honestly, sometimes I wish we were living in the ‘golden’ days, when Long Island Singles hung out with friends and went out dancing or dinner dates,” “But that just isn’t what Long Island Singles do. And when they do go out with friends to the bar scene they quickly get tired of the players and married none singles hitting on them”. -John Joseph Dowling Jr. Senior Matchmaker and Creative Officer for Long Island Matchmaking.

Many of the Long Island Singles we interviewed articulated many of social media’s drawbacks even as they declared that they can’t live without it. “After an evening online, I go to bed feeling unhappy,” many Long Island Singles shared. “I wonder, ‘What did I do all day long?’ Then I wake up and do the same things the next day.”

How Long Island Matchmaking changes peoples lives

Fortunately, Long Island Matchmaker’s have many ways to moderate the effects of loneliness and living single. To combat the creation of hollow online selves, our Matchmakers encourage relationship building activities such as attending charity / photo events, meditation, nature hikes, and volunteerism.

Long Island Singles can also develop themselves through photography, writing, music, and the visual arts. Journaling helps Long Island Singles process complex feelings. So does meditation and time spent in nature.


Times have changed, but Long Island Singles needs haven’t. They need to be loved and loving—to be safe, useful and free to grow into all they can be. The role of thoughtful family members and friends hasn’t changed either: Siblings and friends need to include their Long Island Singles and connect them to dating services and companies like Long Island Matchmaking that help them find hope and make introductions that can turn into committed long term relationships. In this increasingly complicated world, much of the answer is simple: Contact and begin your new journey working together and finding that next Chapter of Love.


Some of our methods are unique and confidential. However, these are deployed company-wide. They even extended to our real world network:

  • After meeting a single we are impressed with, we think who we might know for them. Long Island Matchmaking gets their contact information down for the future use if we can’t think of an appropriate match right now. We then let them know about Long Island Matchmaking services.
  • Long Island Matchmaking generates lists of everyone we know that is single. We add to it as our network of recruiters, scouts, and affiliate matchmakers meet new people. Through our organic network of family/friend/community contacts, we know many more singles than most anyone.
  • We keep a list of all the single men we know and a separate list of all the single women. We only add Long Island Singles whose character and presentation are impressive. Every week, we take individuals from our lists and cross-check them against the lists of the opposite gender.
  • We generate more ideas for matches than you realize possible. With thousands of long term social media contacts and our real life network, we have many opportunities for Long Island Matchmaking singles.
  • Long Island Matchmaking has its senior Matchmakers define our Long Island Singles life goals, and criteria for choosing a spouse. We have our single friends describe the four unique qualities that define them. Also, the four top qualities they are looking for in a partner.
  • Besides helping our friends clarify their future, we coach our clients at every step of the way. We support their efforts for self improvement and reflection. We help them to grow with each new potential committed partner they date. Both within our network and outside of it.


There is a lot more to matchmaking than people think. Understanding the how lonely people are, was our first step in helping this “Plague” of loneliness. Now it is up to you to contact us and register for a one hour free consultation and interview. We can help, you do not have to be lonely any more. Let our matchmakers help you live your dream and find your soulmate or next chapter of love.

Long Island Matchmaking’s guarantee is simple and demonstrates our confidence in our integrity, effectiveness, and commitment to our singles. Long Island Matchmaking unconditionally guarantees that you are 100% satisfied with our efforts at any time during our service period or we will refund the balance of your fee (prorated based on services already utilized) no questions asked.